Dating Hypocrisy

American culture is filled with contradictions. Some of these contradictions we share with other cultures but for the most part Americans are unique in their level of hypocrisy. Take the dating scene for instance. As a man, I am expected to initiate every date I go on. That is, I am expected to ask the lady in question out on a date to an appropriate place so that we may better get to know one another. In addition to this, I’m expected to pay for everything because it’s rude to invite someone to go somewhere with you if you’re not paying for them to go. Furthermore, I’m expected to be myself the entire time.

Now here is the contradiction. The aforementioned lady will not agree to go on a date with someone she’s never met or doesn’t know, so in order for me to go on a date with her so that we can better get to know one another, I have to get to know her better. Also, if I get to know her too well, I run the risk of falling into the friend zone. Now, you may argue that if a lady is attracted to me, it is impossible to fall into the friend zone, but according to most women, it’s a man’s personality that is important so far as relationships go, not looks and although this statement is a boldfaced lie, I am expected to believe it since there is no reason for a person to lie about something of that nature.

Moving right along, paying for my date to go to the movies or to dinner or even out for some coffee (I actually prefer tea but nobody seems to drink tea these days) seems like the proper thing to do, but weren’t there all those women who wanted to be treated like equals? I mean, you can hardly say that someone is getting equal treatment if someone else pays for all of their entertainment. I would call that special treatment.

Additionally, on a first date, nobody wants to see the real you. They want to see the best version of the real you, but they don’t want you to lie, and if they find out that you lied about yourself then its over, no matter how long you’ve been together. How can they trust you if you lied to them about yourself on the first date? So you go on dating this person for a long time and then when you move in together, or god forbid you get married, then you can show them the real you, and you have to hope against all odds that they’ll still accept you. Then, wouldn’t you know it, they show you the real them. If you’re lucky, you’ll have developed a strong enough connection that it won’t matter. Usually people will say that the real you doesn’t bother them, but it does, and after a while, they just kind of drift away from you.

These types of things are what make me bitter, especially towards women. I mean, they have the easy job. All they have to do is sit around and look pretty, and wait for a guy to ask them out on a date. The worst part though, is that I’m bitter and lonely. If I want companionship I have to perpetuate the cycle.

Quote of the post: Fashion is a form of ugliness so foul that we must alter it every 6 months – Oscar Wilde